SOUL SESSIONS

It's my sincere belief that you choose your own happiness and how you let other people affect that.

In the spirit of COLLEGE ending, I've been thinking about this crazy ride... and indeed, it has been crazy. But crazy always come with lessons and I have learned PLENTY. One of the biggest ones, is that sometimes, holding on to friendships for the sake of anything OTHER than the fact that you mutually & honestly respect, love, support and are happy for one another is destined for disaster.

I've learned that forcing friendships and relationships for the sake of saving face or continuing a facade only sucks the life out of the people willing to participate in that game. Who are we trying to please when we do that anyway? We lose the things we should truly value in our lives when we continue to try and value something that's been long been past repair. It's toxic and toxic friends don't have a place in my life --not in anyone's life. Not that I have been the perfect friend nor am I holier than thou, but there truly isn't anything wrong in deciding for yourself that 'this shit just ain't gonna work out FOR ME' and letting. it. go. No sleep lost there, just a simple decision to take over your own life and DECIDE how happy you want to be.

I used to entertain this game for a long time, for the sake of other people, for the sake of a belief, until I decided for myself 'to hell with saving face', it's a natural thing in life to have differences. Am I going to run around town pretending we're the best of friends? No. Am I still going to respect you at the end of the day & wish you well. Of course. But will I ever let myself make the same mistake twice? Never. So set your own standards for your life and stick to them. Some people's agendas are not yours and they say that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. ...So keep your circle tight & choose great, amazing stand up friends....

who tell you when you're wrong.
who you can not see for months and you can pick up right where you left off.
who you can allow to see you at your worst and who will be happy for you at your best.
who always show up when you need them.
who accept every God-given piece of you.

& don't forget to reciprocate. You can only have great friends if you are one.

So lets keep it movin'. I may have lost some friends along the way & some people may not feel about me the way I had hoped at the end of the day... but I still have the same amazing friends I've had for over 10 years, my family is finally in a happy place, I'm in love, graduation is just around the corner, and there's a huge, fascinating world out there for us to explore, enjoy and live and millions of other people you can build relationships with.

On to the next chapter of my life.