Mama said..

I had a great talk con mi mama last night and there's nothing like that advice your mama can give you when it comes to love & relationships. If there's anything she's always reminded me throughout the years, its to never forget about myself. Yes, a relationship takes effort & sacrifice on both parts, but you always want a piece of yourself that you can call your own, protect and know will never leave you. For me, I see two things that fall under that, the love you have for yourself & your career. (Besides your Faith of course)

I admire women who have their own, wait till they've got their life and then invite a man to share in that (and vice versa). I don't hate on anyone that's done it otherwise, but that's just the ideal thing I'd want to happen in my life. I can't be with a man who doesn't have his own going on. I can't be with anyone who feels threatened by the fact that I really really want to be successful and will work till my wheels fall off to make sure mi padres don't have to worry another day in their life.  Not to say that I won't entertain a relationship, but my mom gave me the best reminder last night....that whatever I choose, focus on whats important right now (& that's my career).

& when I talk about SELF-LOVE, I also mean self-respect. The way that you share yourself is the way people will want to treat you. All of that comes from the way that you feel about yourself on the inside. There's that part of me inside that, regardless of what happens to me in my relationships, I can trust and rely on myself and know that I am capable & strong.

To end our conversation, my mom reminded me.. You have to be a bitch sometimes. (now you know why I am the way I am hah!) & the way I take it...You don't have to be rude, disrespectful, or wishing others ill, but YOU DO have to have a backbone. People are gonna play the game on you.. in the workplace, in relationships, in LIFE in general. Be wise about it. Speak your mind when necessary and don't get played.