How can people be in relationships when they don't feel like they're in the right place in their lives?
I only ask this because the older that I've gotten, the more difficult it is for me to be completely happy and committed to a relationship when I feel like I'm taking time away from the three things I really should be doing right now:
1) Getting my finances straight.
2) Pursuing my dream career.. or having a job that provides me stability and freedom.
3) Getting right spiitually.
At this point in my life, if I had all three of those, I'd be completely happy pursuing someone and channeling my energy towards having a relationship. I feel like when you, for yourself, feel like you're in a good place in your life, then you can give yourself some leeway to put your energy into something else for a while.
But right now?
I can't imagine how I can be in a relationship without always feeling like, "WTF, am I doing. I should be looking for the perfect JOB instead of the perfect MAN." You feel me? I guess when I was younger, it was all just fun & games, but now, I'm realizing more and more that time is so damn precious and if I'm going to give my time to you, it better be time I want to give instead of time I'm losing getting myself right.
Maybe I'm in a selfish state right now, but I talk often with the men in my life about this kind of stuff and they always tell me to wait and get mySELF together first, for MYSELF. Not for any man, not to impress anybody, but because it's so necessary for my self worth as a woman. I don't want to rely on any man to be anything but be a supplement to the happiness I've already made for myself in my own life.
I understand there are a handful of great men who would want to support me along the way or are in the same exact hustle as me, but the finer details of relationships in general just make for a complicated mense in my mind right now.
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